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Episode 5 – Identifying Emotions and The Aroma Freedom Technique

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Oils used in this technique: Valor *or* Grounding *or* Clarity *or* Inspiration
Memory Release Mixture (Stress Away, Frankincense, and Lavender)
Inner Child *or* Release
Believe *or* Transformation

Book References:
Releasing Emotional Patterns with Essential Oils by Carolyn L. Mein, D.C.
The Aroma Freedom Technique by Dr. Benjamin Perkus
The Emotion Code
 by Dr. Bradley Nelson
How We Love by Milan & Kay Yerkovich
Switch on Your Brain Every Day by Dr. Caroline Leaf
Hidden Messages In The Water by Masaro Emoto

Hi! And welcome to the Cultivating Abundant Life Podcast! I’m Kait Palmer, and I am passionate about helping women cultivate better lives physically, mentally, and emotionally. 

Last week I talked about emotions–what they are, how they affect our bodies, and how essential oils can physically help us release those emotions. We also learned how to release four emotions–anger, fear, sadness, and joy–and the affirmations to accompany them.  If you haven’t listened to that episode yet I highly recommend you go back and listen to that one first!

Before we dive into today’s topic on identifying emotions, I want to talk about a Young Living product I’ve been ESPECIALLY thankful for this week!

Agilease. Oh so thankful for Agilease! It’s a supplement that can help the body’s response to inflammation after exercise, and boy have I been using it! I took our new dog Hawk on a hike yesterday…I hiked almost 5 miles and climbed the equivalent of 77 floors! Not only that, but we’ve only had Hawk for a few weeks and he’s not quite leash trained yet…meaning he pulls super hard the whole time! Coming back down the steep summit I had to literally tell him to stop every few steps and heel for a few more until he started pulling so hard I was afraid he’d pull me face first down the gravel path! Needless to say when I woke up this morning my hands and forearms and upper body were as sore from him pulling as my lower half was from the climb!!! Agilease has made the day so much easier!

And a few weeks ago I decided I was ready to go for a run and go boxing in the same day…and that day I happened to be the only one to show up to boxing and got a private lesson…ouch?! I mean–awesome for my technique and form but again, I could hardly move the next morning! I was very very thankful for something natural like Agilease instead of popping something over the counter that always has side effects–whether you realize them or not.

So what is Agilease? It’s a supplement that promotes joint health by supporting healthy cartilage, joint flexibility and mobility, and the body’s healthy response to inflammation after exercise.*It contains Frankincense resin powder, UC-II collagen, Calcium fructoborate, and Wintergreen, Copaiba, Clove, Northern Lights Black Spruce essential oils. Yeah, it’s a powerhouse if you recognize any of those oils! It:

  • Supports and protects joint and cartilage health*
  • Beneficial for athletes and active individuals of all ages who want to support and protect their joints and cartilage*
  • Perfect companion to an active lifestyle, promoting healthy joint function and supporting cartilage health*
  • Supports the body’s response to acute inflammation in healthy individuals*
  • Helps support healthy joint flexibility and mobility*
  • Formulated with ingredients and essential oils for healthy joint support*
  • Helps ease acute joint discomfort to improve quality of life*

I know people who take this on a daily basis and have a lot of success with it. For my family right now, we take it on an as-needed basis. When my husband has done a tough mountain bike course it sends him rummaging through our supplements looking for AgilEase! As my body is getting older–I’m 37 folks but also the healthiest I’ve ever been–I find my recovery time is a bit longer than it used to be. Combine that with learning new skills in boxing or pushing further mileage on runs, and I am very, very thankful for AgilEase!

Let’s talk a little more about identifying emotions. 

One easy method is just to look at a list of emotions and see which ones resonate. We use a medical device in our family called the Zyto Scan. This uses galvanized skin response (or GSR) to basically ask your body a question and read the answer. It looks for oils or supplements that will bring your body into balance. I know, I was a total skeptic at first, but after a few scans I saw right away it couldn’t be just a chance it was pulling up exactly what I needed! Young Living has nearly 200 oils and it would pinpoint exactly what I needed! If there is anything I’ve learned in the last nine years it’s to trust the scan! 

If you live in the Southern Oregon or Northern California area and are on my team, that gives you free scans–whoop whoop! Otherwise scans are $15–you can contact me through the cultivatingabundantlife.com if you’d like to set up a scan!

So back to emotions–when you combine a scan with Carolyn L. Mein’s book Releasing Emotional Patterns with Essential Oils, it can be mind-blowing. Often there are more than one emotion listed with each oil, and in that case I let the person being scanned read through the list…more often than not a specific emotion really jumps out at them as being true.

You can use that book in reverse as well. You can look up by emotion to see what oils you need to release that. Like we talked about in the last podcast, Purification can release anger, sandalwood is great at releasing Fear, lemon or orange help to release Sadness, and Joy is great for…you guessed it…JOY!

Another list I really like to use is that from the book How We Love and How We Love Our Kids– both by Milan & Kay Yerkovich. They have a list called “Soul Words,” that break feelings down into categories, and then give more descriptive words of those categories. Their categories are: happy, loving, high energy, amazed, anxious, confident, peaceful, afraid, traumatized, angry, low energy, alone, sad, betrayed, confused, and ashamed. For the entire list you can check out the show notes for a link to their website and download. I remember for a while we had this list up on our refrigerator so it was easy access for my oldest to browse through looking for the right word to describe how she was feeling! I think it might be time to do that again…

For younger kids they break down feelings into mad, sad, afraid, and happy–basically the four emotions we talked about in the last episode!

However complex or simple you decide to go, find the words that adequately describe the root of what you are feeling. Sometimes writing out words that resonate can help you decide the best description. Words are powerful, and so is giving a name to something.

We’re going to learn another way to use essential oils to release emotions today. This is called the Aroma Freedom Technique, or AFT, and it was developed by Dr. Benjamin Perkus. 

Again–there’s no wrong way to oil! Please don’t get overly hung up in this or that method or if you forget a step. Just mindfully being aware of emotions and imagining yourself releasing them while smelling an essential oil is amazing! Again, if you missed how essential oils help your body actually release emotions, go back and listen to Episode 4!

Aroma Freedom Technique includes 12 steps, and I highly recommend purchasing this book so you have it as a reference as you work through these! I’m giving you a brief overview and Dr. Perkus includes a short chapter on each of these twelve steps and covers it in much more detail than I will here. Once you do it a few times you can work through them fairly quickly…just like when you’re learning anything give yourself time and be patient with yourself. 

  1. Step one is setting your intention. This is more than just releasing emotions, it is to release emotions so that your intentions can be fulfilled. Dr. Perkus credits a friend with saying, “Before you can get what you want, you have to know what you want.” So, what do you want? What would you do if money was no object? What would you do if you knew you could not fail? What is your heart’s desire? What are the talents, gifts, and abilities that are unique to you? What does the world need that you can offer? You can have a set intention that you work on repeatedly, or you can have small intentions like things you want to accomplish in a day. And make this intention specific. So instead of–I want to feel peaceful today, maybe make it more specific to–I want to feel peaceful when my kids are losing their ever-loving-minds today. Anyone with me on this?!

    I’m going to give some of the examples from the book, and notice that they’re written as if they’re already occurring.

    I am in a loving and supportive relationship.
    I do what I need to do (eat well, exercise, go to sleep at a decent hour) to support vibrant health.
    I interact with my kids today with love and patience.
    I have a job doing ______ and paying ______ per year, starting on ____(a specific date)

    Your intentions need to be something you really want, something that is rational, something that excites you, and something that gets you in motion.

    The recommended oils to use during this first step are Valor, Grounding, Clarity, or Inspiration blends. Put a few drops in your hands, rub together, cup your hands over your nose and inhale deeply. We call this the “scent tent” over your nose. Breathe in deeply until you feel your body beginning to relax.
  2. Say the intention out loud and notice the first negative thought that automatically comes up–the one that tells you why this can’t happen. You might hear a thought like “You’ve tried that before and it didn’t work!” Or maybe you have a memory or an image of a time you failed or were humiliated. Now it may happen that after listening for a minute you hear no objections–you are fully aligned with your intention! Buuuut I’m guessing if you’re like me you have a ton of excuses that will pop in your head! Often these negative thoughts are ones you’ve thought so often over the years that they are engraved in your mind like a river cutting deeper into the banks. Dr. Caroline Leaf talks a lot about taking these negative thoughts captive and detoxing your brain–I’ll leave that to you to explore but you can check out her books or her podcast “Cleaning Up The Mental Mess.”
  3. Identify how you feel when you think about the negative thoughts. Dr. Perkus writes, “This is the most important step in accessing and releasing the energy that has been holding you back. Many people fail by neglecting this step.”
    If the message you hear is “You’ve tried and failed,” maybe you feel hopeless, ashamed, or sad. If it’s a memory where you were humiliated maybe you feel nervous that could be repeated. This is where that identifying emotions part comes in handy–work on narrowing that feeling down to a single word. At this point you need to make a choice. You can avoid the negative feelings through lots of different distraction methods—you have to go to the bathroom, you need a snack, your kids need to be checked on…or you can courageously allow yourself to feel the pain you’ve been carrying, identify where it is coming from, and reach resolution at the other end of this process.
  4. Notice where you feel this negative feeling in your body. Think about the feeling of grief, and that heaviness in your heart area. Or the tightening of your belly when you’re afraid. Or the tension in your shoulders when you’re angry. These aren’t pleasant feelings so it’s normal to avoid them…but just sit with it for a moment and let it pass through you like a wave.
  5. Drift to an earlier time, it could be recently or long ago, when you felt the same way. Find a “snapshot” of that time. This is called the feeling bridge. Our  memories are linked by similarities, and your current feeling of anger is linked and built upon all of the other times you’ve been angry. Remember in the last podcast we talked about expressive emotions that happen in the moment and reactive emotions that are built on things from the past? This is that same concept. So think of an earlier snapshot of this same feeling.
  6. Smell Essential Oils. OOoooooh we’re getting to the good part! Close your eyes. Focus on the snapshot, the feeling, the negative thought, and the bodily sensation while smelling an essential oil. Dr. Perkus includes a specific blend called the Memory Release Mixture which is a blend of Stress Away, Frankincense, and Lavender, or you can use Release or Inner Child. Personally I think you can also use the essential oil associated with that emotion found in Carolyn L. Mein’s book Releasing Emotional Patterns with Essential Oils.
    Doing this will allow the whole memory complex to shift. It’s important to do the prep first–if you need to edit a file on your computer you have to pull up the right file on your screen to edit it, right? When you smell the essential oil, it can feel like that negative emotion is washing away. Dr. Perkus says “Smelling the oil disrupts the memory complex itself. The oil stimulates a new feeling, which in a sense, displaces the previously identified feeling.”
  7. Notice the Changes. Allow whatever feelings that surface to just pass through you as you smell the oil. Ride the wave of emotion if it gets intense. See what happens to the image and how you feel in your body. If the feeling intensifies, keep smelling the oil and ride the wave. You may even find that this memory can trigger a different unpleasant memory–the healing process is like an ogre. And onions. They have layers that when you peel back one there might be another. If another new emotion emerges it’s healthy to talk about it or journal about it to explore and describe it. Find that spot in your body where you feel that new emotion emerge.  You can smell the oil again and repeat the process–in this case try switching up an oil.
  8. Notice new beliefs starting to emerge. Find the “light” breaking through the memory. Do you get any new creative ideas? When a person is smelling an essential oil and focusing on a memory, usually that emotional charge decreases. Even in everyday uses, smelling Stress Away while in the car with crazy kids can lower that emotional charge, right? As the negative memory is fading a new belief may emerge. You may even look at the memory in a new way. I love this line he writes, “The story we tell about ourselves, how we weave the memories of our lives together into a coherent whole, is the very essence of our self-esteem and self-image.” As you process emotions you want to be actively looking for a positive belief to emerge. Let’s take blowing up at your kids in anger as an example. You may feel ashamed by your behavior. If you’re a mama who hasn’t blown up at some point then I doubt you are human! And even if we apologize and seek forgiveness from our kids, we still may be left with that feeling of shame. As we work to release that emotion, a new view of the situation may be that you accept what happened and can let go of it. You forgive yourself for the outburst. Learning from this experience, you may look at what led up to the blow up and how to mitigate those situations in the future. And you may be appreciative of the forgiveness of your kids, and know that despite the negative event your kids got to see you as an example of humility. That’s a lot of positive things that can come from one negative event!
  9. Revisiting Your Intention. Read your original intention and rate it on a scale of 0-10 based on how likely it seems that it will manifest. If the number is less than 7-8, you may return to step 2 and identify additional negative thoughts. The original goal of this was to manifest that intention, right? So repeat this process with your intention and listen to what you hear. If you need to go back and release another layer of negative emotion go ahead and do that, and check back with your intention. If it’s not a 7-8 the second or third time around you may know there need to be action steps towards achieving your intention, like applying to a school, hiring a virtual assistant, or filling out an application.
  10. Create a new affirmation that expresses the new, positive belief and attitude you wish to instill. Now you are feeling better about your intentions, you need to anchor this in a new reality. The purpose of repeating this affirmation is to program your subconscious mind. They give your mind direction, and so when we create them in a healthy and balanced state of mind they can help override when temporary feelings want to sway us differently. You also want your affirmation to focus on the positive–like “I respond with love and patience to my kids today,” rather than the negative like “I won’t yell at my kids today.” There is so much power in our words–go do an internet search for Hidden Messages in Water –a book by Masaro Emoto. You can see how saying different words–no matter the language!–creates different ice crystals! That’s a really fun rabbit hole to go down! But back to Aroma Freedom Technique!
  11. Anchoring your new reality. Smell the blends Believe or Transformation. Repeat the affirmation for two minutes, with a confidence, morning and night, while standing in a power posture. So research has shown that odor-conditioning can affect motivation.

    Just like the smell of coffee can make you feel ready for the day, or popcorn makes you want to watch a movie, associating a smell with your affirmation will anchor it in your brain. So just like an emotion can have an affect on your body–we talked about shoulders tensing in frustration–it works in reverse as well. Standing in a power pose–open expansive poses like the stance of Peter Pan with feet spread, chest out, and hands on hips–can actually increase your testosterone and decrease your cortisol!


    Another pose is similar–feet planted wide, chest out, and arms out to the side. Standing in a post like this primes both your mind and body. Combine this with your affirmation and oil and you are setting yourself up for a very successful day! Say this affirmation with confidence for two minutes in the morning and evening, while smelling the oil and standing in your power pose. And don’t just do it for one day. If this is an intention you are serious about, repeat this programming your subconscious mind for several days in a row!
  12. Putting it all into action. Make a plan and take action daily!  So all of this intention and clearing negative emotions and reprogramming your brain is AWESOME! …BUT…if you don’t actually take any action steps then what was the whole point? I mean, ok, other than you carrying around a toxic emotion load, but what about your intention?

    Try sitting quietly with it for a few moments after you say your intention and see what creative ideas might come about for fulfilling your intention. Get your ideas down, then sort through and see which of those you can do today. Now is the time to put in the work. As you progress, if you notice more negative thoughts popping up, release those in the same manner that we just talked about.
    And sometimes releasing negative emotions connected to a dream may help us realize we wanted something different.

    This past year my girls began taking horseback riding lessons–something I had dreamed of as a kid! I even planned on taking lessons myself once they got going! We also did hours of mucking not only to offset the cost of lessons, but to show that if you want something you need to work for it. It had all the right components–exercise, horses, learning something new! They were so excited at first, and then…they sort of fizzled out. I didn’t want them to just quit at the first difficult lesson, so we hung in there for three months before realizing it just wasn’t for us. We like horses, but it’s not our main “thing.” What they did discover was Parkour, and every day they would ask how many days until their next Parkour class. Not once since we put away our paddock boots have they asked to go back to riding. Along the way I discovered boxing…and found I’d rather sweat it out punching a bag and getting smacked on the side of the head than clean the stall of a horse any day! 

And that is it. Twelve steps that took a bit of time to explain, but when exercised in real life go quite quickly. Pick up a copy of The Aroma Freedom Technique so you can read a bit deeper as you grow!

Next week we’re going to explore a bit of epigenetics, quantum physics, and how to release emotions using the Emotion Code! And the weeks after that I’m so excited to be hosting my good friend Mica Kucera to talk about the Enneagram, Emotions, and essential oils! I just listened to a class she did recently pairing oils to the different enneagram numbers and how to release emotions with those, and it was SO GOOD I wanted more people to learn about this! If you’re not sure what the enneagram is or what your number is, you can go to Mica’s website– https://www.micakucera.com/
and take a free quiz!

This gal LOVES talking enneagram so if you’re confused or need help figuring out your number she says you can reach out to her–this is truly her passion and I’ve been so blessed to benefit from her knowledge! 

Thanks for taking time out of your busy life to learn and grow with me. I feel honored to serve you in this way and I hope you grab an oil right now and take some deep inhales!

If you’re new to oils and don’t really know how to order them or use them, head to cultivatingabundantlife.com and browse through my free classes, or if you’re ready click that “Get Started” button in the upper right hand corner! 

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Until next time, continue cultivating your abundant life! Bye!

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Lymph Challenge!

I’m doing this challenge starting May 15th!

I know it’s late notice, but I just found out about it and need this! I thought you might need it too!

Who wants to join me? Need to grab your oils and supplement?

Last Call: This group will only be accepting new members until Wednesday, May 11 at 9pm. Drop me a line to get the link to the group!

The challenge runs from May 15-28 & we will leave the group open for an additional two weeks for those who got a late start.

I am part of an incredible group that has all the details led by an RN (she’s an expert on all things lymphatic system!)

There will be videos and posts with exactly what to do. There’s a specific list of a few essential oils, massage oils, and skin brush that makes this the most effective.

If you aren’t a Young Living customer yet, no worries! I will send you the list and an easy link to order your products for this challenge and then add you to the fb group. Super simple!

Why should you join me in this???

There are several tell tale signs that lymphatic fluid is not moving effectively and that toxins are building up in your body:

• Bloating

• Swelling in your fingers/rings fitting more tightly 💍

• Brain fog 😶‍🌫️

• Digestive issues 🤢

• Parasites 🦠

• Depression 😞

• Sinus infections 🤧

• Skin problems/dry and or itchy skin 🤚🏽

• Enlarged lymph nodes 😮

• Chronic fatigue 🥱

• Feeling sore or stiff when you wake up in the morning 🙋🏼‍♀️

• Unexplained injuries 🤕

• Excess weight ⚖️

• Cold hands and feet 🥶

• Constipation 🥴

• Worsened allergies 🤧

• Food sensitivities 🥜

• Increased colds and flu 🤮

A healthy lymph system is a BIG deal! Want to join me?

Here are a few testimonies from previous challenges….

‘I have less fluffiness! When i was at the gym today I could tell my arms were more defined and I have not been consistently working out. AND the scale says I have lost about 3-4 lbs!’

‘I have more energy during the day and less brain fog’

‘I have less joint pain and my knees and ankles are less swollen!’

‘I am starting to drop weight-I had not been able to lose weight for a long time.’

‘The knots in my breast and under arms are GONE!’

‘My skin feels and looks amazing! My circulation has improved as well.’

‘I stink less! Seriously my body odor is no exsistent now!’

‘My cellulite is GONE! I had a massage lady ask if I ran marathons (which I don’t) because my legs were so defined’

‘My stomach cramping and food sensitivities are better-I don’t even understand why!’

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Episode 4 – Releasing Emotions with Oils

If you’re looking for the list of resources, here ya go!

Releasing Emotional Patterns with Essential Oils by Carolyn L. Mein, D.C.
The Happiness Advantage by Shawn Achor
The Heart Code by Paul P. Pearsall
Molecules of Emotion by Candace B. Peri, Ph.D.
The Emotion Code by Dr. Bradley Nelson
The Aroma Freedom Technique by Dr. Benjamin Perkus
Switch on Your Brain Every Day by Dr. Caroline Leaf
Heal Your Body by Louise Hays
Feelings Buried Alive Never Die by Karol K. Truman
The Bible – 66 books by 40 authors over the span of approximately 1,600 years with (by some estimates) over 2,500 prophecies, 2,000 of which have been fulfilled, and all of which has the same amazing and cohesive message–God loves you.

Hi! And welcome to the Cultivating Abundant Life Podcast! I’m Kait Palmer, and I am passionate about helping women cultivate better lives physically, mentally, and emotionally. 

For this next series we’re going to be focusing on that last aspect – emotions. You might feel emotions control your life, or you might put the thought of them over in a dusty corner as some mushy stuff that you don’t really deal with. But regardless of your attitude towards emotions, they color our lives–what would a wedding be without love, a birth without joy, or being helped without feeling gratitude? We’re going to talk about how emotions affect your body, and four emotions–anger, fear, sadness, and joy–that you can release with essential oils. You don’t need to be a certified aromatherapist or psychologist to do this–you can literally grab an oil today and work on releasing emotions!

I began writing this podcast more than a month ago and since then my dog–my faithful Roy Boy we’d had for 13 years and was 16 years old–crossed the rainbow bridge. He was my dog soulmate–there in a new city forcing me to get outside and move my body, there during a move to a new state, during 2 am feedings and early  morning diaper changes, there as a furry playmate for my kids,

and there for adventures as we moved to Oregon and traveled all over. This dog and I could have conversations with our eyebrows! I can’t tell you the number of times I’d hear him woof or huff from another room and yell to my husband he needed to go outside or was hungry and be right–we just had a strong connection! So needless to say that despite him being the equivalent of 120 years old, I’m still heartbroken. So the oils I have relied on heavily these past few weeks are Joy, Frankincense, and Acceptance. I’ll use either over my heart, or apply Frankincense to my face at night before bedtime. 

Back to emotions! Time to open up your notes app or grab a notepad and pen if you’re old school like me, and let’s start learning!

Just a reminder, I am not a doctor, and information provided in this podcast has not been evaluated by the FDA, and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease. Information provided here is in no way intended to replace medical care. Consult with the healthcare authority of your choice and remember–you always have a choice! 

The truth is that emotions are far more powerful than you may realize, and can affect our mental state and physical state directly. There is so much to this and I’m just going to skim the surface, and at the advice of a friend I’ll be making this into a series of bite-sized chunks to help you understand why and how emotions are so important. My hope is that each of these episodes will pique your interest to dig deeper into these topics and give you action steps to take and use today! This first episode is going to talk about real ways they affect your physical body.

Emotional stress is a major contributing factor to the six leading causes of death in the United States: cancer, coronary heart disease, accidental injuries, respiratory disorders, cirrhosis of the liver and suicide. According to statistics from Meridian Stress Management Consultancy in the U.K, almost 180,000 people in the U.K die each year from some form of stress-related illness (7). The Center for Disease Control and Prevention of the United States estimates that stress accounts for about 75% of all doctors visit (7). This involves an extremely wide span of physical complaints including, but not limited to headache, back pain, heart problems, upset stomach, stomach ulcer, sleep problems, tiredness and accidents. According to Occupational Health and Safety news and the National Council on compensation of insurance, up to 90% of all visits to primary care physicians are for stress-related complaints.


Aaaaughh, right? On the other hand though, being able to acknowledge, process, and release negative emotions frees your mind (and body) up for more positive emotions. Research shows that DNA actually changes shape according to our thoughts. We’ll dive deeper into the study of epigenetics in the next episode, as it’s fascinating and a lot to bite off at once! Experiencing and releasing emotions in a healthy way leads to a balanced mind, contributing to a healthier body and happier mind. 

A happier mind carries more advantages than just…well…being happy. According to a study done by Shawn Achor, who wrote The Happiness Advantage, they found that people with a positive mindset:
Had 37% greater sales

Were 3x more creative

31% more productive

40% more likely to receive a promotion

Had 23% fewer fatigue symptoms

Were up to 10x more engaged

39% more likely to live to age 94

Obviously carrying around trapped or negative emotions, or having a mind that you’ve unwittingly trained towards negative thoughts can have a direct impact on your physical health. 

So, what are emotions? Emotions are what we feel–joy when our kid brings us a flower, frustration when we have to unball stinky, sweaty socks for literally the 10,000th time (two years into my marriage I actually did the math on approximately how many socks I had unballed and it was well over 1,000…we’ve been married for 14 years now and I don’t even want to think about how high that number it), anger when we are accused of something untrue, relief when we find something that was lost. 

As Dr. Bradley Nelson writes in the book The Emotion Code, “They are what we experience in the moment, and information stored in our bodies and minds from past experiences.” They are powerful, even if they seem silly (like balled up socks), and can galvanize one to action. 

Dr. Benjamin Perkus, the psychologist who wrote The Aroma Freedom Technique, writes, “In the most basic sense, the purpose of emotions is to express our state of being so that we can get our needs met. So-called negative emotions especially should be seen as a way to communicate something that needs attention.” 

He goes on to give a simple example. Say that an acquaintance of mine stands too close while talking and is stepping on my toe. I might feel frustration and could say, “Ouch! You’re on my toe!” The acquaintance would most likely step back and apologize. I’d say it’s no big deal, and we’d move on with the conversation. I had an emotion, expressed it, and it was attended to in a very basic sense. The anger or frustration wasn’t a bad emotion, it was just an expression of something that needed to be fixed. 

Now let’s say I don’t say anything. I think they might think I’m rude if I say something, or maybe I grew up in a house where I wasn’t allowed to express anger and so I just grimace and finish the conversation. By the end of the exchange my initial feeling of anger or frustration might turn into thoughts of, “how could she not see what she’s doing? Isn’t she aware of how close she is? People like this are so aggravating! I can’t wait to get out of here!” Now I’m feeling not just angry but resentful. 

This is where the cycle of emotional imbalance starts–you carry around unresolved emotions, and the next time I see this acquaintance I might notice she bumps something over and think, “my goodness she’s clumsy!” Or I make a catty or snide remark that leaves the acquaintance wondering what in the world went wrong! 

We’ve all been in a scenario where someone (maybe us) reacted in a way that was completely disproportionate to the situation. You probably realized that they weren’t really that upset about the situation, but about something else.

Dr. Perkus writes, “This type of scenario is all too common in some relationships. It is the result of failing to allow a natural emotional expression to accomplish what it was designed to do – meet a need.”

Expressive emotion is that rush in the moment–someone stepping on my toe and I react and express frustration or anger because I have a need to be met. “Reactive emotion,” writes Dr. Perkus, “ is when an unfulfilled need from the past gets triggered by a present situation that is similar in some way. It is fundamentally a distortion of reality.” 

When we don’t express those emotions, those negative emotions can get trapped in our physical bodies. 

Here’s where it gets interesting. 

Emotions are stored in your cellular memory in your physical body. They have been found to be encoded within the DNA of the cells and passed on from generation to generation. Do you have a temper similar to your grandfather’s temper? That’s not just chance–it’s a genetic emotion code passed down. Not only this, but individuals have the opportunity to change their DNA not only by diet and lifestyle choices, but emotions as well. This is the study of epigenetics and it is fascinating–we will dive more into this next time!

Events, scent memories, and even visual memories are stored in areas of your body, like vital organs. An obvious example of this is recipients of an organ transplant. Recipients report memories, taste preferences, vocabulary, desires, and emotions that were those of the donor. 

Ready for some goosebumps? 

In one case, an 8-year-old girl was the recipient of a heart from a 10-year-old that was murdered. The recipient began having such vivid nightmares the parents took her to a psychiatrist who after several sessions concluded that she was witnessing actual physical incidents. They decided to call the police who used the detailed descriptions of the murder (the time, the weapon, the place, the clothes he wore, what the little girl he killed had said to him) given by the little girl to find and convict the man in question.

For further reading, look into “The Heart Code” by Paul P. Pearsall and “Molecules of Emotion” by Candace B. Peri, Ph.D.

Oftentimes, major emotions get stored in specific organs. Some examples are depression or grief being stored in the lungs, fear and self-criticism can be stored in the head, the liver stores anger and primitive emotions, the heart–your center of love and security– is the place of long-standing emotional problems, the stomach holds dread and fear, and your skin–which protects your individuality–projects your anxiety and fear.  This is by no means an exhaustive list, but it may help to give you a beginning understanding of where common emotions are stored.

To get more in-depth, looking not just at body parts but various diseases, I HIGHLY recommend the books Heal Your Body by Louise Hays and Feelings Buried Alive Never Die by Karol K. Truman.

Have you ever noticed that a smell can trigger a memory or feeling? Like brownies baking in your grandma’s house, or the cologne your high school boyfriend way overused? This is known as the Proust Phenomenon, after the literary example given by Marcel Proust in Remembrances of Things Past. 

A fascinating example of how powerful our sense of smell is is from a study done where patients who lost their sense of smell were frequently depressed. The opposite has also proven true, in one study patients who were diagnosed with clinical depression had a reduced sense of smell, and that their sense of smell improves when the depression was properly treated.

Scent accesses the limbic system of the brain. The limbic system is a system of nerves and networks in the brain that controls basic emotions and drives. It is the emotional brain. It supports five major functions: emotions, behavior, motivation, long-term memory, and sense of smell.

Essential oils can be used to tap directly into the limbic system to stimulate memories and emotions. As you inhale essential oils, the tiny molecules enter the nasal cavity and pass by the olfactory bulb. Your olfactory bulb is a part of your limbic system and therefore your response to an aroma is going to be emotional before it can be rational.

Also, a study at New York University proved the amygdala gland (the gland in the limbic system that stores and releases trauma) does not respond to sight or touch but ONLY releases trauma through the sense of smell!

Not only this, but did you know they are discovering smell receptors all over your body? Your skin, heart, lungs, kidneys, liver, testes, colon–all of these are found to have smell receptors as well! Essentially, they are specialized chemical receptors. These are stimulated by certain chemicals (like…you guessed it! Essential oils!) to transmit messages to the organ.

Essential oil molecules are so microscopic that one drop has approximately 40 million trillion molecules! That’s enough to cover every single cell in your body with 4,000 molecules! They are so tiny they permeate every tissue in your body–including the blood-brain barrier. This is a powerful tool when it comes to unlocking emotions on the cellular level.

This is great news! That means you can use essential oils to recall memories, both good and bad. If they are bad, you can use the oils to help you release cellular memories stored in the body, allowing you to process and move past them.

So the oils I’m going to talk about here are in no means exhaustive! If you get only one book on emotions, get Carolyn L. Mein’s book Releasing Emotional Patterns with Essential Oils. Not only will it give you more in depth ways to release those trapped emotions (we’ll cover more on this later), but it includes fantastic lists of essential oils and the emotion and alarm point on the body they correspond to. You can look up by oil, or by emotion. Often when doing zyto scans the results and this book are so accurate people think that the software analyzes them on social media to pull results–I promise you it does not! 

In past episodes we’ve covered what essential oils are and how to use them. When using them to help with emotions, the best ways are aromatically and topically…and really the topically is because you are still smelling them! (I will say there are studies done that taking a capsule of lavender vitality oil has the same effect as taking a certain medication to help you feel relaxed! Look that one up!)

The first step in all of this is identifying the emotion. Sometimes you know exactly what you’re dealing with and that makes it easy! Other times you may need to do a little digging. That’s where things like muscle testing or the zyto scan can really come in handy.

Robert Plutchik created a wheel of eight basic emotions: joy, trust, fear, surprise, sadness, anticipation, anger, and disgust. 

Some psychologists boil all feelings down to love or fear. 

I’ve read (and tend to agree) that anger is usually a secondary emotion–you are angry because…someone betrayed you and you are hurt, you are fearful of losing your job, you are sad about an event and portraying it through anger.

So how exactly do you use essential oils to help process and release emotions? I’m going to give you the most basic way that you can use right now, and in later episodes we’ll cover other ways to help identify and release those emotions. 

So you identify the emotion. Let’s go with anger. Notice where you might feel it in your body. Close your eyes and find a snapshot of the time that instigated that anger. Allow your body to focus on that, and then smell an oil. 

One of the best oils for anger is Purification. Open a bottle up and take some deep breaths. Allow whatever feelings surface to just pass through you as you smell the oil. Give yourself permission to ride that wave of emotion and let it pass. 

Notice any new emotions beginning to emerge. 

Think about releasing that emotion, and what the other side of that emotion might be. In this case, the other side is laughter. 

There’s even an affirmation phrase associated with this emotion–My Direction is clear. 

You can go a step further and apply the oil to the corresponding alarm points found in Mein’s book like the fleshy part of your hand on the pinkie side, or just under your left chest. 

Repeat this as often as you like. In Mein’s book she suggests anywhere between once a day for a week to 18 times a day for 7 weeks for deep seated emotions! The point is, you can’t do it too often. And don’t get hung up on the exactitude of this! I like to put the oil I’m using out on my kitchen counter or by my bathroom sink to remember to use it. I’ve even made an alarm in my phone to help me remember to oil up! If you want to work on a certain emotion and forget for a day…don’t beat yourself up! Just crack that bottle open, inhale, and pick up where you left off.

Today I’m going to cover four BIG emotions and essential oils that can help release those feelings. We’re going to talk about Anger, Fear, Sadness, and Joy.

We’ve already talked about Anger–Purification is a great one for that. Other oils I’ve found that can help with that secondary emotion of anger are Stress Away, Release, Peace & Calming, Frankincense, and even good old Lemon. 

What’s great is you can use these on kids! When you’ve got angry or frustrated kids, open up a bottle to pass around and see if they’ll take a deep inhale. Then try (calmly) talking about the issue. I’ve done this personally for myself and my kids–for some reason being in the car is conducive to talking. You’re not directly facing each other, you can take a pause and play some relaxing music and give everyone a break from talking. I can’t tell you the number of times we’ve used oils to calm down or elicit healthy conversations while on a drive.

And remember, emotions are a signal that something needs to change, to communicate something needs attention. Maybe you’re angry over injustices in the world. Even Jesus was mad at people who were charging exorbitant prices so average people could worship at the temple. He overturned some tables over that one! So anger itself isn’t bad if it’s impetus for change. The Bible even says, “Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger.”(Ephesians 4:23)  Let the anger transform into a positive emotion–determination, resilience, resolve–and let the negative aspect pass through your body like a wave. It’s the hanging onto anger that is detrimental to your mental and physical health. 

Next up is fear. So many emotions have fear as their underlying emotion. Situations that cause emotions like fear or terror make a profound impact on our body (remember the little girl with the heart transplant?), so while they are important to recognize and act upon for survival, we also need to process them so that we can release them. 

Often when we experience a traumatic event, other–less dramatic–events can trigger the same emotions as the traumatic one. For instance, fireworks can be a trigger for our veterans. It’s that reactive emotion versus expressive emotion. 

Let me give you a (slightly humorous) personal example. I grew up camping every summer and we often would camp in Yosemite Valley. That area sees a lot of bears, and one year after we’d gone to bed in our tent we heard snuffling and snorting in our campsite. My mom woke up my dad, who proceeded to stick his head out of the tent, look around, and loudly proclaim, “Nope! No bears here!” At that exact moment, the giant shadow of a bear lumbered across the wall of our tent. Without hesitation my mom, brother, and I let out blood curdling screams which proceeded to scare the bear off. From then on we slept with pots and wooden spoons and banging on them and screaming to scare away our nightly visitors became a regular thing. 

Now, I love camping, but for years afterwards when the lanterns would go out I would lie awake for hours…just waiting for the bears. Even later in Oklahoma and Oregon where the bear activity was not nearly so high it would take a long time for me to be able to relax and fall asleep–those feelings of terror so tied with nights sleeping in a tent and being woken up by bears (or a bear and a raccoon in a battle in one case!). 

So–did the expressive emotion of fear and terror turn into action (making noise) that kept us safe? Yes. But does lying awake in the tent with those same reactive emotions benefit me at all? Nope! I would just wake up feeling tired and worn out! I feel like this past summer I was finally able to release those emotions and go to sleep much easier in a tent than before. We’ve got 3 camping trips scheduled from summer and I’ll let you know how those go!

When those feelings of fear or terror are triggered or you are remembering those events or feelings, try deeply inhaling one of these oils…and remember this is not prescriptive! If you only have one oil–use that one! As Gary Young said, there’s no wrong way to oil.

For Fear, Sandalwood or sacred sandalwood in the middle of your forehead with the affirmation I face the unknown

For feelings of being scared, Peace & Calming over your throat with the affirmation I am still.

For terror, again use Sandalwood about 5ish inches below your belly button with the affirmation I surrender.

For fear of the past repeating, the blend Forgiveness is so effective, as there can be so much to forgive. Yourself and others. Apply this oil under your right chest with the affirmation I learn from all of life’s experiences.

Lastly if you are apprehensive about going into a situation, Valor on your spine or the back of your neck is amazing. 

What does the Bible say about fear? It says “Fear not.” A LOT. Fear not, be strong and of good courage. Fear not, you’re of more value than many sparrows. Fear not, perfect love casts out fear. Fear not, there’s good news! Fear not, God is on your side, He is your shield, your fortress, the One who helps you. As opposed to anger and as we’ll see next, sadness, which we are to feel, Scripture tells us repeatedly to cast our cares on the God of the Universe and fear not.

Let’s move on to sadness. Sadness or grief touch everyone at some point. Whether it’s losing a loved one, seeing the plight of those in need, leaving friends and family for a long distance move, or even losing a pet, your body will feel that sadness. And that’s ok. It’s ok to cry. To mourn. Jesus cried, and even said, “Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted.” He didn’t say, “Stiff upper lip, you’ll get through it!” Our Creator repeatedly acknowledges the need to name, feel, and express big emotions. Go read the book of Psalms to see the high highs and low lows that King David felt and expressed. 

Much like playing the video game Tetris while recovering from emotional trauma can help you sort those memories into the proper “places” in your brain, smelling an essential oil can help you process and release grief or sadness. Try using these on the alarm points on the bridge of your nose or on your neck where your chin and neck meet. Personally I also feel that over the heart helps so much with sadness as well.

Lemon or Orange are good oils for sadness. The Affirmation is I see the humor in the situation. Now, this is just my perspective and I’m not the doctor or psychologist here, but often there are situations where there is just no humor. In this case I find the affirmation for grief to be more appropriate–Change brings growth

Joy is the best oil for grief, and coupled with that affirmation can be very soothing.

For the feeling of depression, use Peace & Calming behind your ears with the affirmation I am glad that I’m alive

For feelings of sorrow, try the blend Acceptance right in the center of your chest and the affirmation I am in balance. As I navigate grief over losing my Roy Boy I find this oil very comforting.

The opposite of Sadness is Joy. Joy is often is so, well–happy–that you may think you don’t need an oil to support a positive emotion. But smelling an oil like Magnify Your Purpose or Awaken or…surprise…JOY! can open your brain up to more creative activity (remember the Happiness Advantage?) and range of emotion while experiencing joy. 

Also, linking a positive experience with a smell can be beneficial in the future. Similar to Pavlov’s dog salivating at the dinner bell, when you associate a smell with a happy event, in future times just smelling those scents will fire your brain to experience those joyful emotions again. For me, I have very positive emotions tied to using Gentle Baby while snuggling my sweet little ones. Every time I smell that oil it takes me back to a sweet, tender time in my life.

So try Magnify Your Purpose, Awaken, Peace & Calming, or any oil that gives you that positive emotion and work on storing up good emotions associated with that scent.

Ecclesiastes says there is a time to weep, a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance (Ecclesiastes 3:4). We are to express all of these emotions–repressing them will only hurt our mental and physical health. Dr. Caroline Leaf writes in her devotional Switch on Your Brain Every Day, “When you express your emotions in a healthy way, including allowing yourself to feel pain when someone hurts you and forgiving your enemies, you allow the free flow of neuropeptides and energy, which in turn allows all bodily systems to function as a healthy whole. However, when you repress and deny your emotions, whatever they may be, you block the network of quantum and chemical pathways, stopping the flow of good chemicals that run your biology and behavior.” Basically you can train your body to not feel these emotions, which can dramatically affect your physical and mental health.

So to sum up, emotions are good when processed effectively, and they affect your body. Your physical organs and tissue body. Essential oils are amazing because they can help you process and release emotions. 

First identify the emotion. Let yourself feel it in your body.

Smell an oil. Use the book by Carolyn Mein or just grab an oil!

Think about or look up the “way out.” The other side of that emotion and maybe an affirmation to go along with it. 

Inhale the oil and maybe apply to the alarm point on your body like we talked about. If you don’t know where, you can’t go wrong with over your heart.

If you ever feel the emotions are surfacing quickly or too intensely, take a break and process the emotions in a time frame that is more comfortable with you. When you are ready to continue, pick up where you left off. Overwhelming emotions generally indicate underlying emotions that also need to be cleared. As memories and emotions surface, it can be helpful to journal, go for walk, meditate, talk with a close friend or therapist, or exercise as you process and release.

To recap, the oils we talked about today are Purification, Stress Away, Release, Peace & Calming, Frankincense, Lemon, Sandalwood, Forgiveness, Valor, Joy, Acceptance, Magnify Your Purpose, and Awaken. 

Next week we’re going to dive into the fascinating world of emotions and genes and epigenetics, as well as take a look at the Aroma Freedom Technique and how to use that to release emotions. 

Thanks for taking this time with me. I feel honored to share this information with you and I hope you grab an oil right now and take some deep inhales!

If you’re new to oils and don’t really know how to order them or use them, head to to top of this website to browse through my free classes, or if you’re ready click that “Get Started” button in the upper right hand corner! 

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Until next time, continue cultivating your abundant life! Bye!

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Lovely May!

We are already five months into the new year, spring is in full swing, so sit back and take in all the beauty around you! The flowers blooming, the smell of freshly-cut grass, and the sound of kids laughing in the distance. We have so much to be grateful for this season… including honoring our wonderful mothers or the wonderful women who have made an impact in our lives! 

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With this month’s freebies you can make the most amazing sleep and skincare recipes and the most magical diffuser blends!

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Alright let’s break down these promos to see what you get!


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Want a clean, invigorating smell for the diffuser? Lemongrass! It’s also a favored oil for adding to your wool dryer balls to freshen up your laundry.

Athlete needing soft tissue support? Want those joints to feel great like they used to? This one is your ticket, add it to your muscle and joint rollers or with some coconut oil.

Emotionally, lemongrass is known to cleanse the mind & provide feelings of courage & hope. Awesome for sleep diffused with cedarwood!

Geranium Bourbon essential oil has a lush, floral aroma that promotes shiny hair and a natural glow to the skin and makes a great addition to any do-it-yourself perfume or bath and body recipes.

Located in the Southern Indian Ocean off the coast of Madagascar, Réunion Island has been recognized by the world’s perfume houses as the source of the finest Geranium essential oil for more than a century. Known as Geranium Bourbon—a nod to the island’s former name, île Bourbon—this variety of Geranium essential oil has a distinctly complex, fresh, green floral aroma with delicate rosy undertones. Up to 900 pounds of geranium bourbon flowers, leaves, and stems are distilled to produce 1 liter of essential oil. Geranium Bourbon essential oil is amazing in the diffuser, added to your skincare, or even kept in the kitchen for any knife mishaps!

✨ 250PV // BLOOM, 5ml

The Bloom signature scent is now available to pop in your diffuser, create a hydrating facial mist, or DIY perfume! This is a skin bestieeeeee. It has Vetiver, Blue Cypress, Davana, Royal Hawaiian Sandalwood, Clove, Jasmine, Carrot Seed, Spearmint, Geranium, and Sacred Frankincense. Add a drop to your skin and top with jojoba oil, Bloom, or ART Intensive Moisturizer.

Young Living’s exclusive Vanilla oleoresin has a pure, amazing, scent. Made from the beans grown in the northwestern region of Madagascar, it is uniquely extracted in a way to blend with other essential oils, unlike traditional vanilla extracts. Not only does it smell amazing, you can apply it to your skin & hair to help condition and moisturize.

A gorg roller for any of your fave blends! Here is a perfume blend that is just dreamy. 🥰🥰

20 drops Bloom

5 drops vanilla

2 drops geranium

top with carrier oil

Keep an eye out for the newest podcast series coming soon! It’s all about Emotions and Essential Oils! There’s so much to this that I’m breaking it up into bite-sized chunks with practical ways you can start using essential oils to help process and manage emotions–where were these when I was a teenager, right?! Listen to the Cultivating Abundant Life Podcast wherever you listen to podcasts, or subscribe for updates here

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Spring Sale and April Freebies! Yes Please!

Spring is a time to reconnect to the planet, to shake off the buildup of winter and have a fresh start. With spring in full bloom, we’re focusing on cultivating a clean and essential lifestyle with April’s gifts and these spring sales!

Don’t forget this is not just about cleaning your home🏠 its also about cleaning your inside and out with the highly missed Digest & Cleanse that is back today and our clean Savvy Makeup sale! Time to stock up!

And did you see this?! I used to be a Mac makeup gal but these have completely won me over, and I don’t have to worry about it messing with my endocrine system!

We’ve got Lemon, Peppermint, and Tangerine essential oils to assist you in spring cleaning by helping get rid of sticky residue, Purification essential oil blend for sweeping unwanted odors out the door, a 250 ml room spray bottle for custom essential oil-infused spritzes to replace synthetic room fresheners, Lushious Lemon essential oil blend to capture the spirit of spring growth, Pine essential oil for synthetic-free DIY cleaning products, and Life 9 for probiotic support for healthy digestion.

Every month this generous company loads us up with free items simply for being loyal customers. We purchase items we’d be buying anyway – toothpaste, lotion, shampoo, makeup, supplements and cleaning supplies, etc – from Young Living, and we not only get amazing, high quality products that are safe for our families, we get free products, free shipping, delivery to our doorstep and product credits galore! I am ALL about boxes of safe, effective and healthy products showing up in my mailbox with fun freebies inside!

For some of our favorite ways to use these oils, check out the “How to Use April’s Gift with Purchase’ in the Life Steps App monthly resources! www.lifestepsapp.com

During the month of April…

With any Subscribe to Save order of 100PV or more you will receive a free 15mL Lemon oil! Retail value $15.79

Lemon essential oil

• Brighten up your space with sunshine in a bottle. Add Lemon to your diffuser any time of day for a pick me up.

• Remove unwanted odors, remove sticky residue, spot-treat laundry stains and more with this versatile oil!

With any order (Subscribe to Save or one time shop order) of 190PV or more, you’ll receive a free 15mL Purification oil blend! If your order is a Subscribe to Save order you’ll also receive a free 5mL Peppermint, a 15mL Tangerine and 15mL Lemon. Retail value: $89.47

Purification essential oil blend

• Kick unwanted odors to the curb with this purifying blend of Melrose, Tea Tree, Lemongrass essential oils.

• Support healthy airways. Make a simple chest rub with Purification and coconut oil.

Peppermint essential oil (Subscribe to Save orders)

• From workouts to focus to digestion to tension, this is one of the most versatile oils around!

• Diffuse this crisp, fresh oil to brighten any space, including in your car!

Tangerine essential oil (Subscribe to Save orders)

• There’s no wrong way to use this sweet, happy citrus oil. Diffuse, use in cleaning DIYs, add to an Epsom salt bath, add to your favorite roller!

• Diffuse Tangerine while studying, working or during art class to inspire creativity.

With any order of 250PV, you’ll receive a free 250mL Spray Bottle, a 15mL Lushious Lemon blend, and a 15mL Purification! If your order is a Subscribe to Save order you’ll also receive a free 5mL Peppermint, a 15mL Tangerine and 15mL Lemon. Retail value: $156.77

Spray bottle

• Freshen up your space with a custom scent! Create a simple room spray with 40-50 drops essential oil, 1 Tbsp witch hazel and filtered water.

• Use this bottle to whip up a smaller amount of Thieves Household Cleaner to keep in your bathroom.

Lushious Lemon essential oil blend

• Scented candles have nothing on this fresh citrus blend. Diffuse Lushious Lemon any time of day to create a bright, happy, welcoming aroma in your space.

Peppermint essential oil

• Diffuse to bring a refreshing scent to the home

• Add a drop too a wet washcloth to place on the back of your neck while working outside in the sun

• Smell right from the bottle to help on windy roads or airplanes

With any order of 300PV, you’ll receive a free 15mL Pine, a glass spray bottle, a 15mL Lushious Lemon and a 15mL Purification! If your order is a Subscribe to Save order you’ll also receive a free bottle of Life 9 Probiotic, a 5mL Peppermint, a 15mL Tangerine and 15mL Lemon. Retail value: $218.28

Pine essential oil

• Spring clean the entire house with this evergreen oil. Add to your Thieves Household Cleaner, the mop bucket, wool dryer balls and your DIY room sprays!

• Support the airways. Add Pine to a roller and dilute and roll over the chest and back as desired.

Life 9 Probiotic

• Support overall health and wellness daily with this foundational supplement. Probiotics are a cornerstone of health, and Life 9 is an incredible, high-potency probiotic that supports immune and digestive health.

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Podcast Episode 3 – My Next Top 5 Oils

Hi! And welcome to the Cultivating Abundant Life Podcast! I’m Kait Palmer, and I am passionate about helping mamas cultivate better lives physically, mentally, and emotionally. 

As mamas we are usually the caretakers of those in our family. We kiss the bumped heads and wash and bandage the skinned knees. We clean the dog’s ears and tolerate–I mean nurse–our husbands when they get the dreaded man cold. Somewhere in there, we try to exercise, stay up to date on current events but not be consumed by them, keep the romance alive in our marriages, continually pick up the house, feed our families healthy and sustainable and locally grown food, stay on top of the laundry, mow the lawn, organize the garage, help our kids grow mentally and emotionally, work on growing good friendships, and occasionally take time for ourselves. 

We are overwhelmed. But we still love those around us and what we get to do! Over the past 9 years I have learned that essential oils are the best way to help us be those caretakers in every area. 

When I first began to look at ALL of the essential oils there are I was overwhelmed! All I wanted was PanAway–that was the one that worked for me so why did I need anything else? 

I was VERY glad that back in 2013 the only way to get your 24% membership discount was to get a starter kit. I quickly learned that those oils are your basic Oily Toolkit! Last week I told you my top five oils to have if I was stranded on a deserted island would be lavender, peppermint, Thieves, PanAway, and Valor. If I was airdropped a survival bag with five more essential oils…what would those be? 

First, a Young Living product I’ve been especially thankful for this week is Purification. And guess what–it’s one of my next top 5 oils as well! We have a 16 year old lab/German shepherd mix big dog who has had a bad week as far as bodily functions go. I’ve had to wash him, blankets, rugs, mop the floors…it’s been a doozy! But Purification has played a big role in helping because it neutralizes odors. I’m not kidding–pop some in a diffuser and see for yourself! I first became aware of how awesome this oils was on a road trip back from Branson, Missouri,  to Edmond, Oklahoma where we were living at the time. My oldest was 3 years old and we had allowed her to have way more treats than normal on our last day of vacation. She proceeded to spew up said treats around midnight on the drive home…with absolutely no where to stop for a good 45 minutes. That poor baby had a puddle in her lap and the smell? Oh Lord…it was bad. I was afraid my mom and I would start gagging being in the car with it for so long. I had my mom get out Purification and sprinkle it all over the back of the car…and we were AMAZED at how quickly it worked! No further upchucks ensued! At boxing this week a gal commented how stinky her gloves were, I had the great idea to make a spray bottle with water, witch hazel, and Purification to spray into my gloves between workouts. This spray is also great for stinky shoes, garbage pails, laundry piles…the list can go on! This blend is also great for keeping those outside annoyances at bay! Before a hike (if I don’t have one of the Insect Repellent wipes on hand), I’ll wipe or spray my ankles and exposed skin. When my dog was hiking with us I would spray him down as well! I’ve even used this oil in a soak for his collar to make a homemade…annoyance…repelling…collar. This is also a handy oil for occasional scrapes and boo boos and even if a lovely pollinator decides to not be so nice. We keep this oil in our car first aid bag and our hiking first aid bag! I may have also used this around–not in–eyes and ears for various things. 

OK, a quick recap that you can use oils aromatically, topically, and the Vitality label oils internally. Do you remember the difference between the vitality label and regular label? Nothing! Yay! Want more detail on that, listen to Episode 2 of the podcast! Without further ado, here are my next 5 oils I would pick on my deserted island. 


This was my second experience with a Young Living essential oil was with good old Frank. I had been to my first class where the teacher told us all these great things essential oils did–this was before big brother narrowed down what we could say despite peer reviewed and published studies, but I digress. I was still the utter skeptic, and highly dubious. After the class I approached the teacher and asked if there was an oil for a dog with a golfball-shaped…thing…on his shoulder. She recommended frankincense. I, being a snotty and critical 20-something year old asked, “You mean like baby Jesus frankincense?” She laughed graciously and said yes. 

Being young and broke I figured it was a cheaper option than going to the vet, so I gave it a try. I poured frankincense on it a few times a day until it broke open and got all nasty. Then I would take him outside, hose that area off, dab it dry, and apply more oil every day. In three weeks the scab fell off and the skin was smooth underneath. That was almost 9 years ago and nothing…unusual…has ever shown up in that area again!

The book of Isaiah 59:20 and Isaiah 60:6 foretells the birth of Christ and even the gift of frankincense (incense was mistranslated –in Hebrew it is “lebonah” which is frankincense). Mary would have known to massage this oil on the young Jesus to keep him healthy, and it’s scent was most likely a real comfort during a turbulent and frightening time. 

What’s so great about Frankincense? 

  • It promotes the appearance of healthy-looking skin.
  • It may help reduce the appearance of uneven skin tones.
  • It has a sweet, honey-like, and woody fragrance that’s very uplifting.
  • It can create a safe and comforting environment when diffused.
  • It can enhance your spiritual and meditative practice.
  • It is perfect for grounding and spiritual connectedness.

The scent of frankincense can lift your emotions, increase spiritual awareness, promote meditation, and improve your attitude. Whether topically or diffused, this oil is a great one to break out before studying the Word, meditation, yoga practice, or even a relaxing bath. This is also a great one to rub on “the girls” daily. I use it on my face every night, especially in the summertime!

Frankincense also comes in a Vitality version (remember–same oil, different label). It contains properties that can help support overall well-being and a healthy immune system when taken internally. It also supports the respiratory system and the integumentary system.


So Raven and R.C. are both blends that have very similar properties. You can exchange one for the other, and I keep both on hand. RC was very instrumental in the health of my grandma who is currently 79 years old. She started smoking back when the “science was settled” that smoking was totally safe and helped curb cravings and clear up your oily skin…ha…ha…ha. She was lighting cigarettes for her aunts at 5 years old! As you can imagine that wreaked some havoc on her body that she is still dealing with, but RC has been a huge thing for her. She does not leave home without it and I’ve seen it work amazingly well for her! Now, everyone is different and RC might not be your thing, but it’s a great one to have on hand! 

Raven is a cool, refreshing combination of Ravintsara, Peppermint, Eucalyptus Radiata, Lemon, and Wintergreen essential oils.

What’s so great about Raven? 

  • It creates a cooling sensation and provides a comforting aroma when applied topically to the chest and throat
  • It provides a refreshing aromatic experience when diffused or inhaled directly.
  • It may be used as part of your exercise routine to help promote the sensation of deeper breathing.
  • It may give you that boost of energy and motivation you need to conquer the day! 

Easy Uses: 

  • Diffuse in any stuffy environment for a fresh, crisp atmosphere.
  • Add a few drops to a wet washcloth and set outside the stream of water during a hot shower for an invigorating experience.
  • Add a few drops to Young Living’s carrier oil, V-6 Vegetable Oil Complex, and create a relaxing massage oil. 
  • Add a few drops to some coconut oil and stir for a quick chest rub. 

DiGize Vitality 

This oil is a powerhouse for the digestive system. Seriously – it works in seconds flat (at least for me it does). DiGize Vitality is a blend of Tarragon, Ginger, Peppermint, Juniper, Fennel, Lemongrass, Anise, and Patchouli essential oils. Put your googling fingers to work and do a little research to find out how amazing those oils are for your body! You’ll be amazed. You can take this oil internally with a veggie capsule (personal favorite), in food or drink, or directly under your tongue.

What’s so great about DiGize Vitality? 

  • It helps support and cleanse the digestive system.
  • It’s a great companion to Young Living’s enzyme supplements when taken with meals to support your wellness regimen.
  • It includes antioxidant properties.

One more thing, this one comes in a solid-label bottle too. That means it can be diffused or applied topically as well. Remember – same oil, different label.  I like to apply DiGize on the tummy and rub in a clockwise motion, too (I’ll dilute a bit for my kiddos using this method). Whether things aren’t moving at all, or moving too much, DiGize helps bring things into balance.

Personally, I think this blend smells like black licorice so I prefer the internal use the best. You get to decide what works best for you!


My last oil? It’s a classic. The original name for it I heard was Love. But you might know it as Joy. This was one of those hippie emotional oils I wrote off when I got my kit because seriously, how can an oil help you feel joy? 

One MAJOR way is your limbic system. Your limbic system of the brain plays a vital role in interpreting and channeling intense experiences, particularly memories of fear or trauma. Two parts of the limbic system that play a major role in emotional processing–the amygdala and the hypothalamus–are located less than an inch away from the olfactory nerve. When you inhale essential oils, the molecules stimulate receptors in the olfactory bulb that send messages directly to your limbic system. They also can directly affect your endocrine system, which is responsible for your hormones, metabolism, and growth.

Not only this, but did you know they are discovering smell receptors all over your body? Your skin, heart, lungs, kidneys, liver, testes, colon–all of these are found to have smell receptors as well, which I find so crazy! Essentially, they are specialized chemical receptors. These are stimulated by certain chemicals (like…you guessed it! Essential oils!) to transmit messages to the organ. Next week I’m going to talk more in depth about emotions and how we store them in the body and how essential oils can help, but once I learned there was an actual scientific reason behind the reason a blend like Joy might help your mood and emotions, I was much more open to it. 

After the birth of my second daughter I was feeling like my fuse was much shorter. I had a two year old at the time and felt my frustration just shoot through the roof at the slightest thing. My baby was nursing every 45 minutes, and I was just drained. I was speaking at a class when she was 3 weeks old and someone else had a Zyto scan there. A zyto scan is a medical device that uses galvanic skin response to basically ask your body questions electrically and obtain a response and see what things you need to bring your body into balance. Again, I was totally a skeptic the first time I used it but it was so accurate I was impressed. During this scan, I scanned for Joy, Ningxia Red, and Young Living’s multivitamin called Master Formula. Basically I was sad, depleted, and had no energy. YEP! I had been using Joy over my heart when I would feel at the end of my rope, and it helped, but after that scan I became really intentional about using it in the morning and evening. After about three weeks of doing this I felt a shift emotionally. I’m not sure how else to describe it other than that, but I was no longer quite at the end of my rope. 

Four years later when we sold our home in Oklahoma that same baby was having a very hard time with it emotionally. I began to use Joy on her as well, and she called it her “pink” oil since the label was pink. Even she recognized how much it helped her! 

I could go on and on with stories about this oil and the difference it has made in people I know. That’s why I love my job–getting to hear stories like this and the change it can help people accomplish. So if you have a story, I’d love to hear it! Honestly–drop me a line at kait@cultivatingabundantlife.com because I’m a junkie for testimonials like this!

So those are my next five–Purification, Frankincense, R.C. or Raven, DiGize, and Joy. Add that to my top five–Lavender, Peppermint, Thieves, PanAway, and Valor…and you’ve got an amazing oily toolkit that can cover you from head to toe. 

I think this is why Young Living offers their amazing starter kits. Because you might just want one or two oils and a diffuser, but it’s literally like half the price of buying things individually if you get a kit! And so in my kit–almost nine years ago–I got nine oils, most of them I listed in my top 10. No diffuser, no samples, no bonus oils! And in the nine years they’ve changed oils and added two more AND a diffuser the price has only increased by $25! Say WHAT? I’m sorry but I think that’s crazy, and why when I want to buy another diffuser I buy another premium starter bundle! 

If you’re ready to give essential oils a try, you can head to CultivatingAbundantLife.com and click the “Get Started With Young Living” button on the right hand side. You’ll get to join my oily team and get access to ALL the classes I offer both via text and online, AND, coming soon I hope, a Vault of classes and private forum to discuss all things oily! If you’re in the Southern Oregon area, too, you get free Zyto scans! Yep, after having so many scans be scarily accurate my husband and I decided to invest in our own zyto scan and have had one for the past 7 years. We scan everyone in our family about once a week just to see what our body could use to get into balance. There’s also a free classes section on my website if you’re just dipping your toes in the oily water and wanting to learn more–just head to CultivatingAbundantLife.com and look at the menu at the top!

Thank you for taking this time to learn about some of my favorite oils. It’s my honor to get to serve you in this manner, and I hope you take away some practical ways to use oils, as well as maybe piqued your interest in doing some research for yourself on what these awesome oils can do. I’ve been doing this for 9 years and still have those “wow!” moments! Remember, there’s no wrong way to oil–you might find that DiGize works for some neck tension and RC helped lift your spirits!

Until next time, be well, and I hope you cultivate an abundant life this week. 


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Podcast Episode 2 – How To Use Essential Oils and My Top Five Oils

Welcome to the Cultivating Abundant Life Podcast! I’m Kait Palmer and I am passionate about helping people cultivate better lives physically, mentally, and emotionally. Today I get to share with you WHAT essential oils are, and if I could only have 5 essential oils with me stranded on a deserted island…WHAT would I choose? Honestly, it was REALLY hard to narrow it down! I know I said last week I would do an oils 101 but I figure this is a time I can really explain a bit more about oils so I’m narrowing it down to 5. 

So open up your notes app or grab a notepad and pen if you’re old school like me, and let’s start learning!

First I want to start off by sharing a product I’ve been very thankful for this past week. This past week I’ve been thankful for and using the Cel-Lite Magic Massage Oil. This oil blend features Grapefruit, Cypress, Juniper, Cedarwood, and Clary Sage essential oil diluted in Young LIving’s carrier oil V-6 —a rich, moisturizing combination of sesame, sweet almond, wheat germ, sunflower, and olive oils. This massage oil works with your skin to improve the natural skin barrier and improve the appearance of skin tone and texture. It does have the word “magic” in the name! It is also FANTASTIC for your lymphatic system. Your lymphatic system is a network of vessels and organs that regulates the amount of fluid in your body and defends it against infections. It’s a part of both your circulatory and immune systems, but unlike the circulatory system it does not have a dedicated “pump.” Your heart keeps your blood moving through your body, but you need to actually move (or have your body moved) to get that lymph flowing. Think of your circulatory system as a border collie–always ready to go! And your lymphatic system? It’s like an English bulldog. It needs a LOT of motivation and prodding to get some movement! Our neighbors have two English bulldogs and if they’re trying to take the dogs on a walk, sometimes the dogs will just sit down and refuse to move! So exercise like jumping jacks or bouncing on a trampoline or running, getting a massage or using a fasciablaster (ooooh…I’ll do a podcast on that later!) or dry skin brushing–all these things help move your lymph. 

Right now I’m doing a sort of “Love your Lymph” challenge for 14 days where I’m incorporating dry skin brushing, those exercises I mentioned, taking citrus fresh vitality internally, using citrus fresh and cypress topically over lymph areas, detox baths every few days, and of course the Cel-Lite Magic Massage Oil. I usually use it while fasciablasting after a shower, and love the improvements I see in my skin! I also had a massage last week and had my masseuse use this oil and it was fantastic! You can even up it’s lymph-loving factor and add in a whole bottle of ledum essential oil!I challenge you to take a week or two to focus on a healthier lymphatic system and note what changes you feel and see!

Ok moving on to your basic oily toolbox. 

With things like cancer, infertility, and other health challenges on the rise, there is no time like the present to kick all those nasty harmful chemicals in your everyday products to the curb. If you.ve listened to my story, you know how I saw that my body improved after I learned to clean up the toxic burden in my everyday products. It is time to give your body what it deserves: clean products that support your body rather than make it work harder.

With clinics on every corner and around 6,000 registered hospitals in the US, we are armed and ready to be sick. But what if we as a society made a shift, and were better at HEALTH care than we are at sick care? If you’ve been around the past couple of years you might have witnessed a serious lack and suppression of talk of HEALTH care. 

So often we react to issues versus coming at them prepared and ready. Being proactive with our health can be highly beneficial if we’re willing to do the work. Trust me, I’ve had to learn this in reverse! Might I add, that disease does not happen overnight. Body systems do not fail overnight. It happens little by little, day-by-day, choice-by-choice. Everything you do either fights disease or contributes to it. You can’t “oil your way” out of poor nutrition and a sedentary lifestyle.

So I ask you, are you ready to put your health first so you can have more days with your loved ones, your babies, your grand-babies? This class will show you just how simple that is. Ok I’m putting my mama bear side away and let’s have some fun!

I know that making healthy lifestyle choices isn’t always easy. Do you struggle to order the salad over the burger? Been there! Maybe you struggle with choosing to exercise regularly or maybe it’s hard for you to get solid sleep. Maybe your house is filled with questionable products and you don’t know where to start. Been there too! The first book I got on the issue was called Green Living and reading through all the toxic things I should replace completely overwhelmed me! I still have that book not because I really reference it anymore, but because I like to flip through and see how far I’ve come in the past 15 years. 

Making these changes does NOT have to be overwhelming. And making them is MUCH easier than it was 15 years ago! There’s a better option than making a vinegar cleaner and stinking up your whole house! You can take small steps that really add up to big ones. Ditching the chemical-filled, hormone disrupting cleaner for a SAFE, plant-based cleaner infused with the best essential oils is a GREAT start. Then maybe you decide to ditch those toxic facial products and switch them out for ones that are made from ingredients that are truly safe for you. Then maybe you move on to replace your laundry soap and so on. Small changes lead to big results. 

So What are essential oils & how does Young Living compare? 

Essential oils are the liquids extracted from plants. Think of them as plant concentrates. They are distilled from shrubs, flowers, trees, roots, bushes, fruit, rinds, and resins.

Oils consist of over 100 different, natural organic compounds. Essential oils help the plant stay healthy, and they can do the same for us.

Since there’s just a tiny amount of essential oil in a plant, it takes a TON of work to cultivate plants needed for oil. For example:

There’s over a pound of peppermint in a 15ml bottle of oil!

It takes over 75 lemons to make a bottle that same size!
–It takes 60 THOUSAND rose blossoms to make just one ounce of rose oil

–Lavender is more abundant, but it still takes 220 pounds to make 7 pounds of oil

–Jasmine flowers must be picked by hand before the sun becomes too hot on the very first day they open, thus making it one of the most expensive oils in the world! It takes 8 MILLION hand-picked blossoms to produce 2.2 pounds of oil! (Take note—that 30ml bottle for $12? CAN’T be pure!) Ylang ylang is another night blooming flower and you can probably still find a Youtube video of Gary Young explaining the harvesting process–it’s awesome!

–A sandalwood tree must be 30 years old and 30 feet high before it can be cut down for distillation

But a little goes a long way. Most oils are $10 to $33 a bottle–I actually just countied and there are 88 right now!  A 5 ml bottle contains about 90 drops, and a 15 ml bottle contains about 250 drops. Each application is one to three drops–or less if you just put your finger on the top of the bottle, tilt, and use that oil, meaning even a small bottle will get you 45 to 90 applications (or more). 

Thieves cleaner is made of plants only and costs about $1.50 a bottle to make. You can’t even get that in the organic section at the grocery store! It replaced a multi-purpose cleaner, glass cleaner, and floor cleaner. The organic versions of those can run you $4 to $6 a bottle.

An oil in a diffuser can soothe a child’s tough day at school and provide a calming effect when you’ve had a stressful day at work. Oils can be used as an alternative to toxic cleaning chemicals in the home.

The thing is though… not all oils are created equal. How do you know which one to choose? 

Well, for me, it all came down to something called Seed to Seal and Young Living is the ONLY company that provides this. Seed to Seal is a quality commitment unlike anything else; they have control of the ENTIRE process, from the seed to the sealed bottle. These are some of the strict guidelines they abide by. 

  • plant material that is grown on corporately-owned farms or carefully vetted partner farms (that you CAN visit! I’ve been to the farms in Utah and Idaho)
  • sustainable farming and sourcing practices, providing the purest oil
  • great care taken to preserve and protect natural resources
  • hand-weeded fields and ZERO use of pesticides
  • oils that retain all their natural constituents and therapeutic properties
  • use of food-grade distillers with state-of-the-art design and distillation methods
  • low pressure and low temperature distillation, without the use of solvents or synthetic chemicals
  • rigorous testing on each batch by internal labs and third-party facilities
  • oils that are carefully reviewed through every step of production in order to meet or exceed industry safety and purity standards (beyond organic!)

And the best part… if the oils do not meet these high standards they are rejected and will not be bottled as a Young Living product. Check out more info on their Seed to Seal promise at www.seedtoseal.com.

How do you use essential oils? 

Before we dive into the these oils I want to explain how to use them.Anyone can use essential oils – no aromatherapy training needed. As Gary Young said, there’s no wrong way to oil. Let go of the idea that oils are prescriptive…”x” amount of drops “x” amount of times per day. Just get your hands on your oils and start using them! 

You can use oils topically by applying oils to your wrists, neck, back, feet, etc. Just keep them out of your ears and eyes, directly. If you get oil in your eyes, don’t rinse it with water. Instead, apply a fatty carrier oil around the area.

Another thing to keep in mind is that some oils are gentle enough to put directly on your skin without diluting. If you notice it getting hot or making your skin a little red, just apply some carrier oil on (coconut oil, grapeseed oil, sweet almond oil, etc.). For kids and elderly people, dilute it more heavily. Don’t overcomplicate it; keep it simple! 

Another way to use them is aromatically. Crack open a bottle, and breathe it in. It can be that simple! Add your oils to a diffuser and enjoy the therapeutic benefits from diffusing. Put a drop in your palm, rub your hands together, and cup your hands over your nose. Breathe deeply and enjoy! No matter how you do it you still reap the benefits.

You can also use essential oils internally. Add a drop (or more) of a Vitality oil into an empty vegetable capsule, a cup of tea, or a glass of water. You can even cook and bake with them! Try some Lemon Vitality in your yogurt or a toothpick tip of Oregano Vitality in your next batch of spaghetti sauce. One of my favorite things to do is add 4 drops of Peppermint Vitality to a box mix of brownies! One thing to note: citrus oils can break down the petrochemicals in plastic so it’s safer to use stainless steel, glass, or ceramic when adding oils to your dishes and drinks.

Now, before we go any further… I want to make sure you know the difference between a Vitality oil (white label) and the “regular” oils (solid-color label). The Vitality oils are labeled for internal/dietary use so they can be ingested. The solid-color bottles are labeled for aromatic/topical use. However, they are the SAME oil. The only difference is the color of the label. It just makes it easier for us to know which oils can be safely ingested. Does that make sense?

OK let’s talk oils!

First up… Lavender, which is probably one of the most well-known essential oils. They call this one the “swiss army knife” of oils because it is extremely versatile and can be used for so many things! 

Being that I am not a doctor and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe anything to you, an essential oil reference book comes in handy when getting to know your oils. Be sure to connect with me after you take a listen to know my favorite resources!

What’s so great about Lavender? 

  • It may promote feelings of calm due to its balancing properties that calm the mind and body.
  • It fights occasional nervous tension.
  • It may help cleanse and soothe minor skin irritations.
  • It may help reduce the appearance of blemishes and support aging skin.
  • It can be very soothing to the skin after a day in the sun.

It’s great for those little cuts and scrapes and accidents we are all sometimes prone to have! One time I was lifting a roast chicken out of the Instant pot with tongs, when it fell apart as I was transferring it! Instinctively I reached out to grab my precious organic free range chicken and caught it in my left hand and—realizing it was BLAZING hot–I opened my and it rolled down my arm! I’m telling you…I’ve had three natural births but this was INTENSE!!!! After washing it in cold water I immediately slathered the thing in lavender, and then in peppermint. Over and over. I was shocked when there was no blistering or anything other than some redness on my hand right where I caught that bird. That definitely made me a believer in lavender!

Did you know? Lavender also comes in a Vitality version (same oil, different label). It can improve sleep quality for occasional sleeplessness, supports general wellness, and contains cleansing and antioxidant properties. Lavender Vitality supports the integumentary system, nervous system, and cardiovascular system when taken as a dietary supplement. 

During the spring, I often take a capsule full of lemon vitality, lavender vitality, and peppermint vitality to help with those seasonal changes.

As far as emotions go, lavender is tied to feelings of abandonment, criticism, and fear of unfoldment. If you feel those emotions resonate with you, try diffusing or swiping on some lavender! We’ll go over emotional release much more in a future podcast, but when in doubt…lavender!

Peppermint Vitality

Speaking of peppermint–let’s talk about that one! The longer I keep this oil around the more uses I find for it! It has a strong, clean, fresh, minty aroma. This oil can be considered a hot oil when used topically, so I would recommend starting with it diluted or having a carrier oil on hand. Personally, I love that cooling sensation! I’ll use it on my temples (watch the eyes), the back of my neck, or even a few drops in a foot bath. This oil has such a COOLING effect–you can even test it yourself if you’re feeling a little warm! I did this a few months ago with my daughter and we were amazed at the numbers on that thermometer! If you have a kid who’s feeling overly warm, you can apply some on the bottom of their feet and put some socks on. I’ve even used this on my dog’s paws when he seems to be really hot after a summer walk. 

When I was pregnant with my second and third babies this was a LIFESAVER! I was throwing up 5-6 times a DAY with my first pregnancy. Second pregnancy I had a bottle of peppermint in just about every room, my purse, and one lived in my car! I threw up 6 times total my second pregnancy, and only once my last pregnancy…but I blame that on a Carl’s Jr. craving…So that worked really well for me! But remember, all of our bodies are different and I have a mama friend who couldn’t stand the smell of peppermint while pregnant! 

Living near lots of windy mountain roads we STILL keep a bottle of peppermint in the car!
And remember, with the white label we have peppermint vitality, too!

What’s so great about Peppermint Vitality? 

  • It supports gastrointestinal system comfort.
  • It enhances healthy gut function.
  • It maintains efficiency of the digestive tract.
  • It may support performance during exercise.
  • It reduces feelings of discomfort after large meals. 
  • It provides a refreshing, minty flavor to food and beverages.

How awesome is that?! Peppermint is SO much more than a flavor – when you get the real deal. Just like other Vitality oils you can add this one to food like brownies, cakes, cookies, candies, fruit dishes, etc. You can also add it to drinks like water, tea, or protein shakes… You can also take a few drops in a veggie capsule as a dietary supplement – whatever works for you! 

If my head is feeling tight or stuffy here’s a great tip–get some oil on your thumb and hold it on the roof of your mouth! You might feel a bit silly but trust me–it works!

Emotionally peppermint is tied to feelings of failure, fear of dependence, restriction, and rigidity. 

Thieves Vitality

Thieves is a most amazing blend of powerful oils: cinnamon, clove, eucalyptus, lemon and rosemary. This is an AMAZING one to diffuse in your home…especially in winter…and spring…ok year round! I like to add some orange to it for a yummy fall scent!

You can swipe this bad boy on the bottom of your feet before heading out the door, or even use it on a splinter, cover with a bandaid, and see what happens! This is considered a hot oil because of the cinnamon and close, so if you use it anywhere besides the bottom of your feet you may need to dilute. 

Did you know? The name ‘Thieves’ was inspired by the legend of four 15th-century French thieves who formulated and wore a special aromatic combination of clove, rosemary, vinegar, and other botanicals that they believed provided protection while they were stealing. The story goes on to say that when the thieves were caught they were offered a lesser punishment if they would divulge to the king the secret to their immunity, despite being exposed to a highly infectious, deadly disease. Pretty interesting, huh??

What’s so great about Thieves Vitality?

  • It provides immune system support.
  • It’s cleansing to the digestive system.
  • It contains antioxidant properties.
  • It provides general wellness support.

Again, because it’s a Vitality oil, it can be added to food or drinks, taken in a veggie capsule, or placed directly under the tongue–or on the tongue if you like red hots! Some people enjoy it added to oatmeal, parfaits, coffees, desserts, honey, or NingXia Red. My favorite is Thieves Vitality tea. I use a black tea, add a drop of Thieves Vitality, a bit of stevia, and a small splash of cream to give it that richness. 

Thieves is connected to emotions of feeling different, sneaky, and uncertain. Again, we’ll unpack this more in a later podcast. 


This oil… MAN! This was my gateway oil…the one that changed everything! My life–and I mean that quite literally! It just makes that _____ go away, like the name implies. It has the smell of good ol’ fashioned root beer and feels like heaven when applied. (there used to be the letter “i” included in the name…see if you can figure out where)

I use this one a lot on my temples, my forehead, my neck, on my wrists after boxing, on my calves after running…get my drift? You can mix it up with some coconut oil to make a great sore muscle rub–you can even throw some eucalyptus and copaiba in there! I will say, while this is on of my “desert island” deserted island? I have come to find a lot of other oils and blends help me in that area as well. Peppermint, Cool Azul, Deep Relief, Aroma Seiz…our bodies are all different and always changing so what is a deserted island oil for me may not be for you!

What’s so great about PanAway? 

  • With Wintergreen, Helichrysum, Clove, and Peppermint essential oils, PanAway has a refreshing, cooling sensation when applied to the skin – shoulders, neck, and scalp. 
  • It offers a refreshing, stimulating aroma when inhaled.
  • It includes the naturally occurring constituents methyl salicylate, gamma-curcumene, menthol, and eugenol.
  • It cools the skin after physical activity.

Did you know? PanAway contains Wintergreen, which is high in a constituent called Methyl salicylate. Methyl salicylate is used as the active ingredient in many sports creams, but usually from a synthetic source. Young Living uses the real deal. 

And yes, even PanAway is connected to your emotions! This deals with feelings of exhaustion, fear of emotions, and pain…sort of makes sense, right? 

Ok what’s my #5? Raven? RC? FRANKINCENSE?
For me, it’s Valor

This oil holds a special place in my heart. It just calms me every time I take a whiff; I can’t get enough! Sadly my amazing story with Valor is not one I can share on here, but it involves my newborn daughter, a VERY fast birth, and advice from our pediatrician who was an MD as well as an ND. I stocked up on so much Valor I still have unopened bottles of the original formula with rosewood, which we no longer use as it’s endangered. Now the blend uses camphor and honestly is just as effective!

A reason this is one of my desert island oils is for both the physical and emotional aspect it gives.

What’s so great about Valor? 

  • It is a unique blend of Black Spruce, Blue Tansy, Camphor Wood, Geranium, and Frankincense – a true member favorite.
  • It encourages a positive attitude and promotes feelings of courage and confidence.
  • It has a great woodsy, grounding aroma that is great for massages and perfect for wearing as a personal fragrance. 
  • It helps freshen the air when diffused and creates an uplifting, positive environment. 
  • It may also enhance the appearance of healthy-looking skin when applied topically.

Did you know? Valor is the first oil in the “Great Day Protocol” lineup, created by the late Young Living founder, D. Gary Young. You should search for it online – it’s pretty amazing! 

My favorite way to use this oil is along the spine. If I can’t reach the whole thing I’ll use it on the back of my neck and down as far as I can reach. I also like to use it just after a kid bonks their head on a doorframe or slips on the stairs…it was amazing on toddler goose eggs they seem to get!

Emotions and Valor? Oh you bet…I picked this as the last of my 5 primarily BECAUSE it’s a great oil for emotions! Ready for this list? Valor is connected to feelings of aggression, defensiveness, fear of conflict, inability to cope, losing a battle, persecuted, resignation, or feeling withdrawn. If any of those pinged your heart a bit, open up a bottle of Valor. 

So that’s it! Lavender, Peppermint, Thieves, PanAway, and Valor are my five desert island oils! 

Join me next week as I’ll cover the next five I would take…because I had a HARD time narrowing this down! If you’re new to oils and don’t really know how to order them or use them, head to cultivating abundantlife.com and browse through my free classes, or if you’re ready click that “Get Started” button in the upper right hand corner! 

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Until next time, continue cultivating your abundant life!

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Podcast Episode 1 – My Story & How to Use Essential Oils

This is the transcript for the first episode of the Cultivating Abundant Life Podcast

You can listen to the podcast here

Hi! And Welcome to the first episode of the Cultivating Abundant Life Podcast!

My name is Kait Palmer and I am passionate about helping people cultivate better lives physically, mentally, and emotionally. I have a lot of fun things I want to share with you with this podcast–from emotional release to earthing to caring for your pets to incorporating the enneagram with your oils to how to use oils in your garden!

A little bit about me–I’m a Southern California native, have been married to my husband Matt for 14 years, and we have three wild and unique girls who are 10, 7, and ALMOST 6. We live in beautiful Southern Oregon and love being outside in the forest, floating along the rivers, or taking day trips to the coast. My career background is in communication and marketing and I got to do some fun things like marketing at a megayacht builder in Seattle. I left that world when I had my first daughter, but continued working from home as an editor for a university. When I unexpectedly started earning more teaching people how to use essential oils and live a cleaner life, I left the “corporate” world for good. I’m a certified yoga teacher, and have been sharing and teaching classes on how to live a healthier life for the past nine years. 

As a mama, I take on the responsibility of researching the best health choices for my kids (and pets) and myself, and love sharing what I’ve learned with people who may not have the penchant for research that I do. 

Today though I wanted to share my personal story with you, to help you understand where I’m coming from and why I am so passionate about this. I’ll also describe how I use essential oils.  I am not a doctor, and information provided in this podcast has not been evaluated by the FDA, and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease. Information provided here is in no way intended to replace medical care. Consult with the healthcare authority of your choice and remember–you always have a choice! 

In July of 2006 I was hit with my first …..well I can’t exactly say but it was an intense head issue. If you’ve ever experienced this issue, you know how all-consuming and painful they can be! Since then, I’ve been on a health journey from conventional medicine to alternative health options. That’s why I originally completed a 200-hour yoga teacher training program–in hopes I would find relief! While it did help marginally, and I do love yoga, it was not the fix I was hoping. I spent the next 7 years trying just about everything you can imagine to help with them. At one point I remember telling my husband that if I found evidence that implanting an amethyst in my forehead would bring relief  I would do it! In my personal experience though, doctors failed me. I finally realized after 3 years that my issues were tied to my hormone cycle–none of my doctors ever made that connection. Twice a month for 4-7 days I’d be down unless I was on “conventional” treatments–which left me feeling dazed and slightly numb. 

I decided to learn about what affects hormones and–SURPRISE! Everything does! So I began to learn how to clean up my diet. I started with cutting out conventional dairy and mass market meat. I learned how to read labels for what I used on my body and in my home. The degree of intensity lessened but they still persisted, and when I was pregnant with our first daughter it was misery. I was in the ER or Urgent Care 4 times only to be told, “sorry we can’t do anything–you’re pregnant.” They would all ask if I had tried Tylenol (which didn’t even touch it), and at the last visit when the doctor asked that I yelled, “Have you tried YODELING?! Because THAT does about as much good!!!” I did repent later…

When my oldest daughter was about a year old we started thinking about the next baby, and I began to dread the pregnancy. The intensity of these issues had lessened as I cleaned up our diet and the products I used in our home, but I still was reliant on $300 worth of medication every month. Often just realizing I didn’t have my meds with me or I was running low was enough of a panic to trigger one. I felt enslaved to my body…worrying about planning a trip or activity only to have it thwarted by this. 

We were buying goats milk from a local farm and one day the farmer Jennifer, who knew what I struggled with, asked if I’d tried essential oils. During my yoga teacher training I went through a course that included a segment on aromatherapy, and had gone to Whole Foods with high hopes and bought a bunch of oils…that did nothing. I told her I had “tried oils,” but they didn’t work. These–she assured me–were different. I shrugged it off but she literally stuffed a little blue bottle into my purse as my arms were holding my toddler and urged me to try it.

I forgot about it. Honestly. Until the day my grandma moved to OK from AZ and we were unloading her moving truck. I could feel the aura and I desperately searched my purse for my meds…only to realize I had none. I did, however, come across a little blue labeled bottle. I had NO idea how to use it so I just put it where the tension was starting to appear, and kept unloading the truck in the sticky June heat. An hour later I realized…I was fine. For the first time EVER, something besides heavy meds had worked. 

That was in 2013 and as of this date, other than seeing my midwife during and post-pregnancies I’ve not needed to see a doctor. I never refilled my prescriptions. I have three kids and after learning about oils, we’ve had two medical issues that required a doctors’ visit in all that time. There’s absolutely a time and a place for western medicine–I’m not going to attempt to remove an appendix in my bedroom! But for the most part I’ve learned to deal with things at home. 

So I hope you can understand why I’m so passionate about essential oils and living clean. Oils weren’t the “magic bullet,” they were the final missing link that drastically changed my life. They first took care of the symptom, and then I learned to use other oils and supplements to take care of my endocrine system and address the root of the problem. When I don’t manage stress, am not conscious in how I eat, and skip out on exercising and sleeping well I notice an increase in my “issues.” However I’m no longer hiding in a dark room literally banging my head against the wall. The intensity is nowhere near where it used to be–my intensity level now is a 2-4 as opposed to a 7-10, and they don’t come during my cycles really anymore. 

Since we have big brother who cares SO MUCH about your health (as evidenced by the last two years, of course), I can’t say specific diagnoses we’ve dealt with naturally. I am not a doctor, just a woman sharing her experience. Consult with the healthcare authority of your choice and again–you always have a choice!

But know this–YOU are in charge of your health. No doctor on earth knows your body like YOU do. So put your big girl panties on and be responsible for doing the legwork to read labels and take care of your body so you can do the things you want to do for as long as you want to do them. If not for you, aren’t those you love worth doing it for? The three doctors, one naturopath, and one acupuncturist  I saw didn’t figure out…oh gee she gets really really bad problems twice a month? Maybe it’s hormonal?! Looking back it seems so obvious to me now…how did they all miss it? They just wrote prescriptions or suggested supplements…never any other suggestions. 

Think about this–if I can’t tell you that taking Vitamin *Dee*  is beneficial for your immune system, just imagine all the nuggets of truth I can’t say on here about essential oils! It’s like if someone asked me everything there was to do at Disneyland, and all I could say was, “Disneyland is an entertainment park.” I’d be leaving out all of the fun and magic and food and experiences, right? So I’m hoping that in these podcasts you read between the lines, and maybe dig a little deeper into what these liquid natural gifts have peer-reviewed and published studies showing they can do. Often you’ll hear me share HOW I use an oil, but maybe not WHY I use it there or in that manner. 

I am a Young LIving Brand Partner. I swore I’d NEVER do something like this…I’m not a Mary Kay lady and certainly not a sales person! But when something changes your life so drastically you tell everyone about it, it sort of came about organically. I’ll celebrate 9 years with this awesome company in June, and really do admire their whole process. I’ve been to the St. Maries farm in Idaho and the farm in Mona, Utah. I’ve gotten to harvest blue yarrow seeds, plant lavender, see the melissa seedlings in a giant greenhouse and get invited back by the farm manager to help with planting season (we were traveling otherwise–duh!). I’ve asked the workers how they like working there, and so far everyone I’ve talked to loves it. The farm in Ecuador has a two year waiting list to work there! They farm everything organically, they hand weed, they periodically test to determine when the best time to harvest it…I could and probably will do an entire podcast on their farming and distilling practices because I’m a total nerd who LOVES all of that! If you want to learn more now, you can check out SeedtoSeal.com or click on the Essential Oils page on my website–cultivatingabundantlife.com They do tons of testing–you can read about all of that online as well–and you can rest assured that the oil you get in that bottle is the purest you can get. There are no fillers, nothing that was made in a lab, nothing synthetic. 

So let’s talk about the basic ways to use essential oils. There are different schools of thought when it comes to usage–English, French, German…they all have different takes on usage. We can do a whole podcast on that in the future, but the way I’ve learned and practice is the French Model. We use essential oils aromatically, topically, and internally. 

Aromatically is pretty straightforward–you smell it! It can be as simple as opening up a bottle and smelling it! You can diffuse it with a diffuser–we have 6 or 7 in our house! You can put a drop or two on a wooden clothespin and clip it to the air vent of your car, apply some to diffuser jewelry like leather or lava stones. My kids like to put a drop on their favorite stuffy or blanket to smell through the night. You can add some oils to water and witch hazel and mist your sheets with it (the witch hazel helps hold the scent on longer).

Next use is topically. Ya slather the stuff on! A few things to know first–some oils are “hot” oils. Cinnamon, clove, oregano, Thieves, peppermint, wintergreen, lemongrass–all of these can be a bit strong for some skin types to use neat, or undiluted. It doesn’t mean you’re having an “allergic reaction” to them, any more than rubbing cayenne pepper in your eyes and them watering is an allergic reaction. This really depends on your skin type, and what your body is going through. For me and my family personally, we rarely dilute essential oils when using them topically. However, when my kids are maybe fighting something off, I’ve noticed their skin will pink up a bit using one of these oils, and in that case we dilute with a carrier oil. A carrier oil is any fatty oil–coconut oil, olive oil, avocado oil, jojoba oil, etc. This slows down the absorption of the oil into your skin. It doesn’t “weaken” the oil. 

So most recommend, “Start low and go slow.” Start with a drop (or less–often I’ll put my finger on the top of the bottle, tilt the bottle, and use that), and see how your skin does. If it gets a bit red or feels hot, you can add a carrier oil right to the top of it. Some people get all specific on one drop of essential oil to one tablespoon of carrier oil…yada yada…I’m sorry but I’m a mama of three and don’t have time for that! If I dilute at all, I just put some coconut oil in my palm, add a drop or two of essential oil, rub together and apply. If diluting is your thing whether for sensitive skin or to make those dollars stretch–totally a good reason by the way–you can premix the essential oils with a liquid oil like fractionated coconut oil or jojoba oil and put it in a roller ball.

Another thing to be aware of is that citrus oils, and blends that contain them, can make your skin photosensitive. Just like girls putting lemon juice in their hair back in highschool to lighten it, lemon, lime, orange, tangerine, or bergamot oil can make your skin much more sensitive to the sun. So if you’re using one of those oils topically, use it where the sun don’t shine!

Next safety item–don’t use essential oils in your eyes or ears. If, by chance, you do get oils in your eyes–and if you use a lot of oils it’s going to happen at some point–don’t try to flush it with water. Use a carrier oil around your orbital socket to draw the essential oil out. I’ve done this a number of times and other than my eyeball feeling cold with peppermint or a slight burning sensation with other oils, it’s not a big deal. 

For ears–do NOT give yourself a wet willy with the oils! If you are wanting to use oils for an ear issue, use the oil in the front and behind your ear, and down along your jawline.

Last way to use essential oils–internally. Now, a few years back the efF Dee Ay got their panties in a twist and said you can’t say you can smell that bottle of lemon and put a drop in your water as well…they have to be DIFFERENT things. So Young Living created the vitality line. If you see an oil bottle with a white label, all that means is it’s a great one to use internally. Is there ANY difference between lemon and lemon vitality? NOPE! Not a thing! But if I’m talking about adding oils to a capsule to swallow or add to a salad dressing, I’ll be saying “peppermint vitality” or black pepper vitality, just to make big brother happy. 

The way I love using essential oils internally is adding lemon vitality, lime vitality,or  jade lemon vitality to my water or sparkling water. For oils I know will support certain systems in my body, I’ll put vitality oils in a capsule and swallow. Some people like to add their vitality essential oils to the capsule and fill the rest up with a carrier oil, for me I’ve never actually found a need to do that but you do you. So if I’m wanting to love on my adrenal system I’ll fill the capsule with nutmeg vitality, endoflex vitality, and maybe some orange vitality for good measure. You can add a few drops of peppermint vitality to a batch of brownies, dip a toothpick in oregano vitality and stir it into your stew, or add a drop of Thieves vitality to a hot mug of black tea. When using vitality citrus oils make sure you use them in a glass, metal, or ceramic container. Citrus oils can eat petrochemicals like plastics and styrofoam, so if you want to do a fun experiment, blow up a balloon and let a drop of lemon oil fall on it…it’s almost like an instant diffuser when it pops and that oil disperses in the air!

I’m going to wrap up now with the way I’ll start future podcasts–talking about a Young Living product I’ve been especially thankful for this past week! I have to say this week I have found myself reaching for Progessence Plus.Its designed specifically for women and made with natural, bioidentical progesterone from wild yam to promote well-being and feelings of relaxation, harmony, and balance.It has sacred frankincense, copaiba, bergamot, cedarwood, peppermint, and clove essential oils in it. If you find your hormonal cycles influence your emotional state sometimes, give this one a try! This was one of the game changers for me in terms of getting my endocrine system to a much much better state. I’d say this is a great oil blend for anyone with ovaries! In fact, my 10 year old daughter, who has begun to develop, just scanned for this oil last week on a zyto scan–which is a medical device that uses galvanic skin response to determine oils and supplements that help bring your body into balance. I SO wish I had had something like this when I was in my teenage years! This isn’t going to force synthetic hormones on your body, the progesterone is bio-identical and your body takes what it needs and metabolizes and excretes the rest. Fancy talk for pee, y’all. 

If you don’t know much about essential oils or where to get started, you’re in the perfect place!

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Thank you so much for taking the time to join me in my very first podcast. I hope you learned something and are taking away a little tidbit of information to utilize, and join me next week to learn more about what essential oils actually ARE, how they’re made, and what 5 oils I would choose if I was stranded on a desert island! 

Until next time, be well, and I hope you cultivate an abundant life this week. 


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Podcast is Live!

I’ve had it in the back of my head to start a podcast for some time…but everything about it seems daunting! What platform to use, what content to talk about, can I stay “compliant” and not slip up? How do I edit it? What if my voice sounds terrible?

All these ideas floating in my head until I saw someone else’s post based on the book Start Ugly. Basically, just get it out there! It’s not going to be perfect! But done is better than perfect!

SO I got it out there! My very first little podcast, like a newborn sent into the world! It’s short and sweet and to the point! So give it a listen! If you’re like me and listen to podcasts at 1.5x or 1.75x you’ll blast through it in no time! Next week I’ll be going over the basic tools in your toolkit oils. Those oils you don’t want to be left without!

So head to your favorite place to listen to podcasts (except Google podcasts which I haven’t loaded to yet, or Pandora which takes 4-6 weeks from March 20th) and take a listen, give me a follow, and click on a rating if you’re so inclined!

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